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[MrBond]

In my case, since he was her boss, I didn't have any choice but to let it go. She worked for a large organization and if she lost her job it would have been devastating to her reputation and future job prospects.

I let it go, continued to GAL while maintaining a civil friendship with her for the sake of the kids.

Things came to a head 3 years after the BD when her boss came to my working place and threatened to have me fired for some negative comments written about him online which I had nothing to do with. Evidently he messed around with other people at work and someone had found out that he had lied about his service record so he thought it was me. He went so far as to threaten my W's job and my family. Then he called me a coward for not confronting him at work about my W.

For some reason, an overwhelming feeling of calm came over me and I looked at him dead in the eye and told him that he meant nothing to me. That he wasn't worth my time W. But this time, a large crowd of my coworkers had gathered and I announced loudly to them that this was the guy who fooled around with my W which caused her to leave me. I had nothing to hide and people hiding secrets hate being drawn out into the open.

Needless to say he was incredibly embarrassed and demanded that I go out to face him. I looked at him again and told him that he meant nothing to me and that if he still considered himself a godly man (he is a pastor too), that he should go home to his wife and pray that his soul isn't thrown into hell for adultery.

Now normally I wouldn't have told anyone about my M problems as they were my problems. But he pretty much threw that out the window. After that, I called my W and asked her if her boss had returned to the office and she said he had. I asked her how he was acting and she said he was ignoring her. By then, the initial attraction was gone and they kept things strictly business.

Moral of the story is that there are some things you can control and some you can't. There comes a point where you will have to trust your spouse to a certain degree. Even if it comes to working with an AP. I have seen many people who have had affairs with one another and ended it, yet are still able to maintain a business relationship. Same goes for people who work together and previously had a relationship together.

The way society is nowadays, it's hard to avoid.