"Also she asked me to move back home.. going back on saturday. Shes become so loving again unbelievable."
I will tell you right now that his IS A TERRIBLE IDEA. Neither you nor her have actually changed any of the things that caused you to get into this position in the first place. ESPECIALLY since you made that comment about her male friend. You haven't grown up AT ALL.
PLUS you haven't even gone to counseling to fix yourself. All I've seen is lip service and no real action. Going to the gym is fine, but you don't get it that it won't help your situation. All that is, is an escape for you away from your real problems.
If you are still intending to go back, you REALLY need to talk to your W and lay down some ground rules for you and her. First and most important is that BOTH of you need to go and seek individual counseling. Then when that has worked out, you can go to MC.
Have you stopped being judgemental? Have you accepted the fact that she can have male friends and can go out if she wants to? Have you decided to grow up and help her rather than play video games all day or go to the gym? I don't think so.
I've seen too many situations on here where people think that just because their spouse wants them back, that they can just let their "changes" slide. And I put the word 'changes' in quotes, because I think all of yours have been superficial.
You still don't get it. So are you going to be a man or continue to be a boy?
She really wants me back and shes ill atm.
I do help her around the house to be fair.
I have stopped being judgemental and she said herself she will never speak to another guy again and how wrong it was.
I personally dont have a problem her speaking to guys however, as long as ive met them aandspoken to them.
