T, You have done a great job throughout the three years and you are doing what is best for your wife, you and the children. You've thought long and hard about this and I think your decision is a solid one that you can look back on and say "I gave it my all".
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
