I passed 10k posts and think it's time to celebrate...or whatever....
Keep us posted.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
THANK YOU to both Sandi2 and 25. I know I speak for MANY when I say that the help, insight and support that both of you give on a daily basis has helped change lives - at least it did for me. You two are some of the wisest vets and you provide help in such a supportive way (each in your own style, of course).
Every time I see a post by either of you, I read it. Even after 3 years, I learn something from you both in each and every one.
So thanks - it takes a lot of time and effort to do what you both do and it's not been in vain.
So yes, LET'S CELEBRATE!!! Crimson - come out and join us!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
It's been about a month since I posted to this thread. In that time, I have had more personal growth and have worked on the spiritual component of my life. I stopped dating for now (That was hard to do because I hurt a few people ), keep busy (scuba studying) and lean in on my friends a lot.
I kept in the dark mode phase for awhile and tried to get cozy with it. Long story short - good things are happening maybe....MAYBE....big maybe. But I am slow, cautious, and not at all willing to rush to anything. I think time and life have a way at whittling away at hearts at times....minds, too. This may very well be the case for XW. Not to give too much away, but today was the first time we spoke in person about "things" since she moved out a year ago. We sat in the courtyard at church at talked during the service while S was in Sunday school. Lots of ground covered in 60 minutes, but we have a lot more to go. We all went to breakfast for the first time in about a year afterwards.
I haven't been posting here too much because I am trying to ride my bike without training wheels a little bit and see how I do. I am cautiously optimistic.....but still based in reality. Oh, and to clarify, she is the one that reached out to me.
Hope there is more to come....we'll see. Either way, I am adjusting.
Crimson
PS....really funny with all of that happening today, 25, that TODAY is the day you ask for an update..........
I know it was weirdly timely!!....but hey, where is that request of mine? I could have sworn I posted that HERE...
oh well, I need to get more sleep or something...
So, sounds intriguing on your end. DO Keep us posted.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Well, I haven't been posting too much to my thread because 1.) I have been trying to stand on my own two feet and use what I have learned here, and 2.) I know things in situations like mine can change at the drop of a hat.
That said, slow, steady progress has been made over the last several weeks - but I am not pushing it. I am adhering to the "hand-feed-the-squirrel" model. It has required a lot of impulse control and restraint on my part - but trial and error over these years has taught me a lot about that.
We have had some good talks...have hung out as a family here and there (at her request) and have reflected about the time she spent back at the house last spring. It's been pretty good. In a totally new move for us, we have even sat together by ourselves in a chapel at church and prayed about a few things.
And, in a move I did not see coming, she wants to come on vacay with me and S to Disney. Again, cautious optimism - but things are moving. I am not forcing them at all - but time is running its course I think. We'll see what happens.
), keep busy (scuba studying) and lean in on my friends a lot.