I probably shouldn't have done this, but because of a situation with S18 that I've been discussing with H, I told H (by text) that I had pointed out to S18 that happiness is a choice, not something that randomly happens to you and no one else is responsible for your happiness. I shouldn't have done it because H's main complaint is that he "hasn't been happy for a while". I have very little outside that statement to work with and so it's as if I'm chastising him directly. Which I sort of am, of course, but I felt like S18 needed to hear it so I said it.
Yea, should not have done that. Especially since you recognized your motive in chastising your H and used your S18 as a tool to do that. Big no no. And ultimately whatever result you THOUGHT you could achieve through your H is not going to happen.
Remember, you cannot control or change him with anything you say. Only through your own actions and changing the way he sees you, and thereby changing the way he treats you, can you affect a change in his behavior. No shortcuts
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
