I probably shouldn't have done this, but because of a situation with S18 that I've been discussing with H, I told H (by text) that I had pointed out to S18 that happiness is a choice, not something that randomly happens to you and no one else is responsible for your happiness. I shouldn't have done it because H's main complaint is that he "hasn't been happy for a while". I have very little outside that statement to work with and so it's as if I'm chastising him directly. Which I sort of am, of course, but I felt like S18 needed to hear it so I said it.
