Trying to find my way

[Meghan]

Now while I cannot speculate as to what in particular worked or even where she is emotionally towards me, I can say her attitude towards me has improved dramatically. She is initiating texts, when my kids are with her and I am on FaceTime with them, she will now turn the phone to herself and talk to me about little nothings really. Her texts will now include smiley faces, cute emoticons, she has referred to me as her husband to other people recently, and has in general almost taken a pursuing position. While I do not think I am at the point where she wants to R, I am definitely leaps and bounds beyond where I was 2 months ago.

None of this would have happened if I had not gone NC and given her the space, and the belief I was moving on.

This is great to read, Pilot - very hopeful! I like your approach. I think the space and the willingness to demonstrate moving on sound like good things, and your commitment is impressive.

I've been thinking about what I should be trying with H. I don't know that I want to give the impression of moving on, particularly given my significant contribution to this mess, but showing a better person who is more empathetic, happier, and less focused on him meeting my needs will hopefully be a good start. I think some more space for him to figure these things out would also be of benefit.