Things are still up and down... He is now refusing to change saying there is nothing wrong with him.
Verbal abuse has escalated. He's currently in Brazil, on a guys trip to the world cup (which he cannot afford. However, all his friends are millionaires, so of course he has to keep up appearances.)
He will not be honest about how much he spent in total, but on airfare alone it was over $2000. We have NEVER EVER taken a nice trip like that. I am extremely hurt. Before he left, he called me a B* told me if I wasn't such a horrible b* that we'd go on trips like that. Told me he'd rather spend time with his friends than with me any day of the week, and that's why he was going with them.
He called me last night, and I was quiet. I am hurt every time he tells me what a great time he's having. He went off when I said I would like to get off the phone, and called me a f-ing b*, and kept saying f* you, you've treated me horribly and expect me to want to be with you etc. etc.
He always apologizes, and says nobody deserves to be treated that way, but like a typical abuser - he tells me I caused him to speak to me like that.
Yeah, it's been bad. It's really got me down in the dumps. I was doing well, and doing my own thing. He finds some way to make me feel like I'm not worth it. I'm trying my hardest to live in my head and self talk - tell myself he's wrong - but it's not easy.
I don't know how to stop it. I can't move out. He won't move out. Walking away when he starts - he follows. Hanging up the phone just ticks him off more, and I hear it when he gets to the house. It's become a constant in my life instead of just a here and there type deal. His friends, of course, have labeled me as the problem and are telling him he's right about me. Some friends.
He went to a counselor, came back telling me she was "siding" with him, and that I'm always going to find something wrong with him (HUH?) and that it will never end. That I will always keep him from doing fun things (again WHAT? He's the one who has been on MULTIPLE guys trips!)
I'm dropping the rope. It's no fun to live like this. I cannot change him, and he refuses to see that he has some major verbal abuse issues to deal with.
I'm trying to get back to reading the boards more, and hope to start commenting on more threads. If nothing else, it keeps my mind busy.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
