1 step forward, 1000 steps back

[mdu]

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the feedback. I was starting to come to the conclusion on my own that I should give H a little more of a chance here, at least to discuss his POV on NC and the potential job change. So I'm glad I'm starting to line up with you all, albeit a bit slower to get there ;-)

The contact through work really threw me. It really freaked me and made me worry and wonder what else I don't know. I'm sure there's a butt load.

I do have a question, though. I get trust but verify...but how can I possibly verify a work situation? For example, let's say that we agree he stays at his job but must completely minimize any contact with her (e.g., have one of his employees handle whatever she needs instead of him). How can I possibly verify that he is actually following through on this? And what about if/when they HAVE to work on something together. How can I possibly verify that they really kept it 'just about business'? It just seems like an impossible situation. It's a small company and he's high up in it so there's no place else for him to move within.