If you have read either "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", or "The Five Love Languages", you'll get this immediately.
H and I both read Men are from Mars (I identified more with the male oddly enough)... and H read 5LL. According to what we discussed from his understanding of 5LL, I spoke his LL due to him discussing with me (years ago) my lack thereof and he chose not to put effort into speaking mine, even though it had been discussed (requested, yelled, etc.) a number of times. He blames his upbringing and my independance.
Originally Posted By: zew
... - we wish you had just shouted plain English words in our faces, instead of trying subtle hints. Men really are simple.
Unfortunately I did, I'm a pretty straight shooter. A few years prior I had told him we were heading for divorce. It was the one and only time I had said those words prior, so I don't think he saw it as an empty threat. Which I think is what makes it so hard for me to believe that he even cared. I think I don't trust that it's genuine. The whole, "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice..." thing, you know?
Originally Posted By: zew
and it may be too late for her to ever let it go.
Same here, but I hope not for you. :-) thank you for taking the time to reach out, it's helpful to understand that others go through similar times and see the opposite perspective on things.
