2x4 time. You are responsible 50% for the demise of the M. I agree wholeheartedly with Zew. This is going to require soul searching, remembering what she said for the past few years, hints that she dropped, a study of your style of interaction with her over the past 25 years, and more. It's a lot of work but you now have the time to devote to that. It's not easy work, but it need to get done. I know it's often tempting to say screw it and throw in the towel, but if you still have hope then hold on to that and put your head down and get your work done.
M: 59 W: 53 M: 9 yrs T: 14 yrs No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine) W moved out 11/18/2013 D-Day 12/14/2013 W moved back home 12/1/2014