Hi Matt... yes, I have listened to his "words" however, I am trying to do as said & not believe it UNTIL I see it. I do take his words/analyze them & blah blah blah. My bad!! Yes, I do see that its all about him, his "I" statements. He has become very selfish. Who knows if he actually means what he says. I am trying to not pay attention to "words".
I have made progress over the last 3 weeks.. I understand Ken that its only the beginning... but it is a true genuine START! One that I was proud of. I have made changes in myself that I am proud of prior to the 3 weeks. But, its been the last 3 weeks where I stood up for myself by not accepting "just sex", backed off when it came to not interrogating about his mom's accident, not "being there", allowing him to manage on his own, not interrogating or asking questions about his real estate deal, not acting jealous of RE agent, not providing my opinion (when asked), and then 2 days ago... reiterating that I have given up!
Pulling away and remaining consistent is where I was succeeding. I continued yesterday when at work I suggested that he can leave early ... that I would finish off our shift, we both don't need to be there. <<< this is me, trying to pull away from him. Showing that I don't need to sit there, day after day... WITH him.
I am not intending on backsliding further. I am moving forward.
Today he was expressing his struggles to get his obligation for clients complete vs. taking his mom to the hospital. Both at same time. He was concerned how he would manage. I jumped in an offered to switch roles (I would take mom) so that he could manage the clients. Normally, I can manage the clients but this time it requires his attention.... so, I offered. Is this a backslide too?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
