It’s good to know, I suppose, but it also makes the task ahead even more daunting since I can see even more places where I imagine he feels hurt and slighted by me. That’s hard to face, and there are definitely moments where I worry that I really am a horrible, selfish, self-focused person who was unable to recognize or appreciate most of the nice things that her husband was trying really hard to do for her.
Someone here will chime in on the race analogy so I may as well give it to you now: it is a marathon and not a race. Pace yourself. The other one is: the longest journey begins with that first step.
To help you, take time to think about what you want and then work on a plan. The DR book will guide you on this. This will help you break up this journey into manageable steps.
If you really are that horrible, selfish and self-focused, I don't think you would be have started this DB journey ; ).
Welcome to the family and to the marathon.
M:36 W:34 T:9,M:4 Me,WAH:7/2011 My apology:12/2012 Her,WAW:01/2013 ILYBINILWY:4/2013 W's EA:5/2013 Sep:9/2013 2nd EA signs:03/2014
