The inclination is to try keep control, but I don’t have any clue how, since it’s just not possible. I haven’t successfully detached yet, but I’ve started some mindfulness meditation, though – I’m hoping that it will help with this.
Welcome to the club! A lot of us are in the same boat. I am still struggling with this. It is much easier said than done. Wayne Dyer's 'The Shift', on YouTube, really helped me to understand the incredible sense of peace that comes from letting go, detaching. He talks a lot about the need we have to control things in our lives and why this often leads to pain. And he talks about how this shift is different for men and for women. Unfortunately, for most of us, we have to experience this lesson many times over the course of our lives before we really get it.
Originally Posted By: Meghan
He knows I’m scared of the outcome – thanks to Monday’s MC for bringing that up again so I could cry and leave him feeling guilty – but I haven’t been visibly upset about it in many weeks other than in counseling. I’ve also been asking about what friends he plans to see when he’s there and suggesting things that I know that he’d like to do or wanted to take care of (including pranks on his crazy sister). I don’t know that I’ve pulled off seeming super-excited, but I think I’ve managed at least some healthy interest and support.
It sounds like you did great here. Don't worry about appearing overly excited.
