Help, anyone, vets. I have been working on my180s and detaching and feeling better about me. W and I have been getting along peacefully. Then, Just the other day, I caught W and Om meeting up secretly for lunch. They tried to hide their whereabouts. I felt really uncomfortable with this. I spoke to her and she said they were meeting up just to talk about a realestate transaction that the Om needed help with. If i didnt ask then she would if just hid the encounter from me. Should I tell her that I don't like her making contact with him like this? Giving her my boundeies. would this be considered an ultimatum that may push her away? Don't know what to do. Please, I need some suggestions.
What I want to do is draw the boundaries. But afraid it may back fire on our progress. I know she will look at it as controlling. How do I set boundaries without seeming to control?
