Do not give up hope, and keep to the NC. It really does make a difference in a lot of situations...mine included. It is hard (easier if you are able to truly detach) but you can do it. Do not quit posting. Post every day or so, even if there is nothing substantial. Post your feelings, emotions, etc. Many people here will relate to what you are going through and will be able to offer keys and tools to help you get through it. This place really is good therapy. You only have to look at recent posts by Thornton to know things can go from bleak to joyous in a single day. So keep your chin up, and spend this time doing what you can to improve yourself.

This is where the real difference and changes can be made in your R. This is the time apart that really counts.

Best of luck my friend!


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16