My W was the one that didn't want sex at all. I was trying to be nice and not initiate at all and I think it may have been wrong thing to do. I am not saying to try and just keep asking, obviously that isn't working try something different. A lot if good examples on here already, but try to do it with no expectations, hard yes, but will keep you wanting to try again.
While W and I were in counseling, it was very hard when it came time to answer my issues time. I was scared as well, and worried. I might go against a few here, but my thoughts. You have to be able to release your side of things to, and yes they are going to be upset at you for what you say. However, if you keep it in, it's not helping either. Now don't dwell on it, and make it seem like end of the world, don't think you are but just saying. Then when he comes back with his whatever feeling validate it from there. Doesn't matter what you do or say, he is feeling what he is feeling and you can't change that. You can change yourself though, and keep putting your best foot forward, and when and if he is ready the feeling of only being about you may dissipate. Just keep it has nice and honest as possible.
I guess the best way to look at would be put yourself in his shoes, and would you want to hear anything from someone you are not really in a vibe with right now. When you are home though and together try to keep from mentioning much unless he brings it up. If he does just validate and really pay attention, like you are when he asks you to look at stuff, try not to talk about you. I know it's hard to do, but right now he thinks it's all about him. While he is gone on his trip plan a couple things just for you. Keep your mind off of it, and try to focus on you and what you can do to have fun and enjoy your life.
