1 step forward, 1000 steps back

[MrBond]

Before you send the message (which I think is a bad idea), have you and your H discussed MC?

I would suggest you do that first before telling him he would need to change his job. YOu have to understand that that is a big step. Not so easy to find a job nowadays in this economy. The MC should be able to relay to him your concerns in a way that maybe you haven't been able to.