With time and the right frame of mind, thoughts of the affair seem not to come as often and not last as long. I still have to tell myself that it's out of my control and not something I have to worry about. I was finally honest with myself and realized that this affair could last longer than my hatred of it. Shoot, if my W ever gets off her butt and files, she may even marry the jerk. It is beyond my control. Statistically, Affairs do not last. After reading this forum, it looks like many can last a very long time. Knowing this, I'm moving on with my life the best I can. I'd suggest others to do the same. If the spouse does decide to come along for the ride, then decide what course of action to take.
