Long term marriage - husband quit!

[MrBond]

"Why do you always have to down people just because they dont want to wait 3 years like you did?"

Go back and read your post first. YOU were the one who insulted those who stood for their marriage for a lengthy period. And I can tell you that there is no time period because every situation is different.

As for busby's post, the same thing applies. From what I read in the sitch both her and her H have some serious learning to do in their relationship. Again, this is a process which has no set time frame. Once you establish a timeframe, you will fail because you "expect" things that are out of your control.

"Im just saying some people can only take getting [censored] on for so long before they have had enough. Apparently that time for you was never."

What you don't understand is that the anger you feel is something you do to yourself. You give it power so it affects you. Your spouse can act like a total @$$, but you have a choice whether to blow it off or let it eat away at you.

I would say my W was one of the worst. The spew I had to listen to. But then I remembered that her acting out was more about her than me. Then the power of her words and actions faded away. And all this was while she was in an A with her boss twice her age.

DBing isn't the easiest thing to do. But there is one thing that it requires, and that's patience. If you give the process a chance, you might be surprised. But it's not like studying for the Bar exam. There are no set deadlines and you need to leave your expectations at the door.