rayzzz... Need I remind you--she's just flapping her gums at you!
Don't believe anything of what she says...ok sharpie this on my forehead in canadian enfrancais so only i can read it .WAW has terrible french =D
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OK, so you responded a bit because she DID push your buttons and you weren't prepared. It happens. But you didn't lose it and you regained your composure.
That was totally it. I was not prepared with a script so I was all frazzled
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Let her do the work if that's what she wants. If you have to go along (legally) then you do.. but one thing at a time.
This also gives me peace...she can initiate it if she wants!
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This urgency of doing it all "right now!" is pushing my buttons from here.
Anyhow, you certainly don't need to help her any more than absolutely necessary, nor let her bully you into anything, and you certainly don't need to do it on her timeline.
"Urgency on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."
Man I guess I just wanted to jump when she says jump cause methinks if I listen to her immediately she will see how good I am and come racing back to me. Of course that is rubbish. gotta build a big cage around my buttons like the wire cages that house fire alarms..weeeee ooo weeee oooo (cue Minion from despicable me 2 and his fireman scene)
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You can agree... and slowly... get around to it. If you have to, if you want to.
You see what I mean?
You do it when you're feeling stronger and more in control of your emotions.
working on a calm strategy now so when this comes around again I can act out of strength not fear. In the end just realizing like ben2010 said 'its just bills and bank accounts and that can all get sorted later"...doesnt mean the future of my M is dead because our money is separated
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Again. IGNORE HER!
It's the whole "demanding" tone she used that's a clue that she's trying to gain control or get you to lose it. What's the big rush?
The past is the past. I don't recall your financial situation, but since this happened you've been supporting yourself, right?
Then don't let her diminish you. You're stronger now.
You're in charge of your own Batmobile, and she doesn't get a key until you know she can handle that expensive piece of machinery.
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(OK, I'm about out of metaphors, but still...)
Take a breath. You'll be OK.
Not even Robin gets to drive the batmobile! Keep coming at me with bat metaphors --I loveth them GG!
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Oh yeah. And be reaaaaaalllllyyyy nice about it.
You don't say "No".
You just validate what you can about how she's feeling, and see if she even brings it up again!
---GGG
Being nice about it will be a total 180 cause I can see how tense she is when she brings this up....will a casual shrug and "No big deal, our cars are now separated" send a "as if" vibe?
GG I am writing you a uke song tonight that heralds your wisdom and db beauty! Thanks to you to Wonka...and by the way...she is poison ivy...the only time she kisses him is to control him and be demanding!
Going to GAL my head off tonight at the stampede rodeo and as for the world cup...a shoot out in Argentina's favor? *sigh* and that is why I am a hockey fan =D
Me 42 W:35 M: 14yrs T:15yrs D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs BD: "I want a D"09/03/14 Sep: 30/06/14
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
