Trying to find my way

[Meghan]

Thanks for the feedback, Ben.

I've proposed sex verbally, but I haven't really tried much in the way of sustained nakedness or wandering around in my underwear - he's seen me naked briefly when I've gotten out of the shower or when I change, but I guess I've been afraid to do more because I don't know what the reaction will be. I'll give it a try and see how it goes, though - I like your subtle approach.

My concern is that he says he's physically attracted to me and that I look great, but that he's not emotionally attracted because he's so hurt. He's also said he feels like he doesn't want to give me sex now that I want it because it's all about my needs and keeping the relationship rather than taking care of him and I didn't deal with this earlier, which is certainly true. He doesn't want to be with me unless he feels I want it, too - I do want it, but I've hurt him so badly that he can't see or trust that it's real.