WAW separation begins

[GoatGal]

rayzzz...

Need I remind you--she's just flapping her gums at you!

Remember what we say about what THEY SAY?

She may well be trying to push your buttons, get you to blow up at her, for you to be the bad guy.
Then she can say: "See what a jerk I'm leaving? "
Don't give her that satisfaction.

OK, so you responded a bit because she DID push your buttons and you weren't prepared. It happens.
But you didn't lose it and you regained your composure.

Now.
If SHE wants to change up all the financials and she has that power, there's not much you can do.
Let her do the work if that's what she wants. If you have to go along (legally) then you do.. but one thing at a time.

This urgency of doing it all "right now!" is pushing my buttons from here.

Anyhow, you certainly don't need to help her any more than absolutely necessary, nor let her bully you into anything, and you certainly don't need to do it on her timeline.

"Urgency on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."

You can agree... and slowly... get around to it.
If you have to, if you want to.

You see what I mean?

You do it when you're feeling stronger and more in control of your emotions.

Again. IGNORE HER!

It's the whole "demanding" tone she used that's a clue that she's trying to gain control or get you to lose it. What's the big rush?

The past is the past. I don't recall your financial situation, but since this happened you've been supporting yourself, right?

Then don't let her diminish you. You're stronger now.

You're in charge of your own Batmobile, and she doesn't get a key until you know she can handle that expensive piece of machinery.

(OK, I'm about out of metaphors, but still...)

Take a breath. You'll be OK.

Oh yeah. And be reaaaaaalllllyyyy nice about it.

You don't say "No".

You just validate what you can about how she's feeling, and see if she even brings it up again!

---GGG