Long term marriage - husband quit!

[Ben2010]

Well of course she did the same things your H is doing now at the beginning. After she calmed down about it though, she would talk about it in a serious manner that wasnt in absolutes. So thats what Im getting at.

He can say all of that nonsense now that he wants, but when he truly sits and talks to you about it, it wont be the same. He wont be insulting when hes saying it. I promise you eventually he will calm down and you all will have a talk like that. Not sure if it will be on the same timeline I had, but it will happen.

I completely understand not wanting "that" person back the way he is. It took everything I had to even listen to her when she was like that let alone be in the same space. It hurts alot to feel like you never meant anything to them based on the way they talk. That isnt the case though. He cares, hes just clouded right now and youre gonna have to wait it out until he comes out of it.