#33: HOLDING my ground... my self value

[wishing, hoping]

Hi MM

I have never replied to your thread, but wanted to chime in. Just had a few thoughts.

Number one, stop making excuses for him. I did this for years with my ex, and now I can see what I did. This is called enabling. He does bad let him own the bad WITHOUT taking on the responsibility.

Number two, your thread is dripping with co-dependency. This:
"I can't help but "feel" for him... "feel his pain". I hope that some of my comments made it through to him."
Is codependent. Stop feeling sorry for him. He made his bed, let him lie in it.

I am not trying to mean, just direct.

Concentrate on you, not him.

WH