On this site? I believe many years ago that there were a couple of mlc parties that did reconcile. This site represents only a small portion of those dealing w/the crisis. As for real life, I've seen a few reconcile, remarry and have remained married and have celebrated many happy years together. Those that remarried have said that the second time around w/their spouse was far better than pre crisis.
It all depends upon the damage, whether both parties are willing to do the necessary hard work and yes, the MLCer has a lot of work to do before the lbs should reconsider taking them back. The MLCer may opt not to do the hard work and continue on his/her merry way and bounce around in life and regret what he/she has done...but again, too much work for them to even try. The lbs may have moved on completely and have met someone new and is in a new relationship or remarried and doesn't want to be "burned" by the mlcer again.
The future is unknown and no one knows what it holds for us that far away.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
