Train, he is the one pursuing the D and he's pushing hard for it. That's the goal he's set for himself since BD and that's the only thing on his mind. After D he will have his slate clean to start his new life and be happy. It's what he deserves. The kids will be fine as will I but he just "needs" to do this. I am a very honest person by nature and have always been with H about EVERYTHING. I've always told him EVERYTHING and so for me to go to a L and then have this dropped on him seems wrong to me and doesn't make me feel good. And that's when I have to remind myself that there's no more us, there's no more confiding and sharing and trusting. It's hard but I have to stop worrying about him and focus on me and the kids. He doesn't care or respect us so why am I. He really makes me feel crazy I tell you.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home