[LoisB]

My GF told me what H said in a conversation with her right before he left to go to work in May. He said that he hasn’t been lucky finding a companion. He could not do it at the vacation home place, he could not pick up a Mexican girl there, because he doesn’t speak Spanish, he could not find anybody in the state where he works. He was kind of sorry for himself and said that maybe he is just destined to be single. Yeah, and I didn’t say anything to her about the dating site. I suppose there is nobody good for H there either, LOL.

He's MARRIED!! If that ain't the definition of insanity, I don't know what is.

Bright, you may want to shut down the conversations about your H and the cousin with this GF. I think this has come up before...a lot. It's not doing you any favors! I know it's titillating stuff and I have this problem with my mom. She loves to dive right into Smokey and what I've heard and what's going on...it doesn't serve MY purposes of getting on with things. You can shut these conversations down.

The remarks he made give you, again, a very good idea of where his head is at...he's 16. And, you aren't 16. You're a grown woman who deserves someone much better than this.

Look at him for who he is today and leave him to his crisis. He sounds so adolescent. Don't empower him because of the pain he has caused you. Look at WHO HE IS TODAY. NOT A CATCH. Just my 2 cents.