I'm also sorry to say that yes, some of us idiots only really wake up to reality at the 11th hour or when it's too late. I can hear my wife saying some of the things you recount.
Thanks odsnt. I guess I just don't understand how someone can love someone and not hear them for so long? I was so sure when I told my H that I wanted a divorce that he would be relieved, because I was convinced he just didn't care anymore. I'm having a hard time believing that it's love and not just convenience of some sort.
I agree with the sentiments on traditional counseling - how the heck is dredging up all the bad stuff over and over going to help? There are alot of SFBT counselors near me, now to figure out how to choose a good one. :-)
