Crazy thing is...I think if a safe guy came along, I probably wouldn't feel an initial attraction.
That is the problem with emotional dysfunction - normal peole can be perceived as boring or unattractive. At some level may damaged people want drama, or to rescue and save. That is why being alone is so important. When you can 'be' and dwell alone, then you are more likely to make good choices.
If we go on feeling that we are incomplete without another person, we do not not learn to love our solitary state. Another person can bring joy, but they do not complete us. There is a big difference here
