So far so good. I can feel myself getting a little impatient and at the same time, I feel I have the tools to get myself in check and remind myself what I need to do. I did temperature check the other day and she's been a little off with me since but I feel that's more because of what is going on at work rather than a lack of desire for me. I do feel that the bed invites were more about her feeling vulnerable than any attraction for me though I also know that those invites wouldn't have happened if I hadn't changed.

I've wanted to ask her to join me in bed when she's ready but in a matter of fact, "great if you do, fine if you don't" way but I haven't really "felt" it so I haven't done it.

I accidentally called her "babe" the other day and I've touched her a few times without any thought and she doesn't back away or tell me off so while she's not reaching out, I know we're making progress.


Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014