I was thinking about your thread and I had these great thoughts today while I was doing the dishes! Now, I'm not sure I remember.
Something like...
I'm not sure I trust my "chemistry" anymore. You mentioned how you wondered if people could change...well, what if we are just picking the wrong people.
Because of some deep, unmet childhood need, we choose people who are emotionally unavailable/unstable/abusive/etc...So, we choose wrong to begin with and, then, expect them to change.
I'm wondering if I need to refine my "chemistry" radar and try to develop relationships with people who maybe don't set off a spark initially. ??? Maybe look for people who I wouldn't normally fall for...revise my attraction antennae, so to speak.
I want a calm, go-with-the-flow type person who is easy-going and doesn't spend all his time focused on my behavior. I want someone comfortable in his own skin and able to laugh at life. No control freaks/substance abusers/emotionally distant guys need apply.
Crazy thing is...I think if a safe guy came along, I probably wouldn't feel an initial attraction.
Destined to be alone? IDK.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
