Well Aj, maybe it's me and a touch of being snooty!
Though I realize those two made those choices, well it all seems so sleazy! Not to boot he's proud of it! He saw an old friend of mine and mentioned he had a "girlfriend" . This was about a year ago. She asked him who and he said " remember the guy that shot me in the face? It's his ex wife!"
All I can think of is some sort of sick and twisted cerebral narcissism on that one. Whatever.
Actually, Ex Husband had been what I feel was "pursuing" a friendship with me this past year. When I started to talk to him in person I felt icky afterward. I felt he would make up silly excuses to talk to me, like being confused on schedules of visits when he and I had just recently clarified it.
However after he was so insensitive to D14 and how he broke the news he got married, I was dead DONE. He tried one last time after that to act stupid about drop off pick up in re: to D11. I just flat out told him that it was now between he and D11 unless it's a special Holiday, which he and I MAY have to communicate. Other than that Im staying out of it, and staying out of the drama between he and D14.
He has left me alone since, which I am very grateful for. I have absolutely no desire to talk to him or even see him again. If it's something important, I do respect the fact he needs to be notified, but there's absolutely no point in us speaking. Of course if one of the girls became very ill or injured, yes I would alert him.
I find your ex's behavior quite baffling!Im sorry AJ, I don't quite remember how your sitch started, but I do recall you saying her behavior is bizarre and she's hard to deal with, therefore you keep your distance. Can you give me a thread to refresh my memory, or a quick summary? Only if you wand to AJ, no worries if you don't want to.
You know, now that I think about it, I feel the same way you do. I just needed a little time for it to resurface. I don't want to be involved in other people's BS as the cost of me! Im the first one to be understanding, flexible, and compassionate, but after a while.....if it's clear there are some things that just are TOO
