Long term marriage - husband quit!

[Ben2010]

Yeah like I said, my wife did the same thing. I didnt even see her in person, but I promise you, you could feel the anger and heat through the phone. It felt like she never hated anyone more than me at that moment. Just remain calm and act like it doesnt bother you and it isnt something that you are interested in fighting about. I know that is hard to do, but when you see the results of it, its an amazing transformation. As soon as he knows that you are not his safety net and that you are not just sitting around waiting on him to come back, then he will change. Let him vent all he wants but dont take any of it personally. And dont sit there and think that he doesnt think about you and miss you because I promise you that he does. There are things that he has taken for granted with you for 30 years that he will not have with the OW. All of those things will start to add up with him. If it was something that he truly couldnt deal with, then he would have done this a long time ago. Hang in there.