Hi Sarah, My W's MLC started about 3 years ago (going on 4 now) but B-day was just a little over year and 3 months ago. She had been getting worse and worse, not being a part of the family, spending all her time with her new "friends", not cooking, cleaning, missing school functions, stop having sex. It built and built until B-day where she was so sure that I was the cause of all her unhappiness that she wanted a D and didn't want to even try. I had thought it was just her depression (she was depressed for several years not long before it started and stupid me just tried to be 'supportive"). If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't have been at all supportive and told her to shape up or get out.
Sorry, I just had her come over AGAIN, this time thinking I wouldn't be home, to take even more furniture! She also brought her father and his OW whom I can't stand. I was rather upset and I told her not to come over while I'm not here again. She kept saying it was the last day she had the truck. I said then you should have waited until I was here AND told me you were coming back for the desk in my room as it's full of MY stuff. She just said that she would have gone through it! Does she not understand that it's NOT her's to go through anymore! She just got angry and told me not to be "snarky". You are right that I have to talk to her. If she doesn't like that I want only 4 things out of the 30 that we bought at that sale (not even the expensive things!) then I will tell her to take it up with my lawyer.
I would change the locks but she brought my D14 with her and she needs her key and would have just had her open the house! How is it that if I went into HER home and started going through her things she would be so very upset. She does it and it's just me over-reacting! Ugh! I'm just so very angry at her right now. Oh, and she invited me to her GM's birthday party on Saturday! I'm not good enough to keep the things MY money bought from HER family but here I'm still invited to their parties?
This standing is very hard, Sarah. I know you are just getting started but if you really think about it, there were probably signs before B-day that he had started down the MLC trail. It helped me to get a handle on just how long into her journey she was. Didn't help with keeping her from filing in the end but gave me an idea which stage she was at. Knowing that it usually takes 5-7 years to get through any MLC, by thinking about when it truly started gave me some idea how much longer it may take my W to get through hers.
