Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

What hasn't seemed to work this time round:
-Going dark: Based on the few conversation we have had, I feel like I waited too long.
-Asking her to reconsider her decision that we are done.
-The long distance.
-Backtracking on the ultimatum on honesty about the EA.
-Feeling sorry for myself.

What didn't work before the separation:
-Being emotionally reactive: Specifically, when discovering EA.
-Focusing too much on apologizing.
-The long distance.
-Snooping.
-Trying different approaches without allowing for time to see the results.
-Telling certain friends who saw divorce as the best option.
-Feeling sorry for myself.