YES, Oxford. I think the same thing about applying things I am successful at work to my home life. For instance, I realized that I give a TON more thought & consideration to a challenging conversation with a colleague than with my H. Hmm...priorities a little backward, maybe?

I totally agree thinking about and applying other areas of your life where you're successful to you M is a very useful exercise!

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14