labug; i'm not afraid to face the truth, I guess I'd like to put pressure on that relationship - but that is not the DB way - I know.

This (Divorce Recovery book) a much more soft approach. I am not combative, but all the info that I can garner from this, I would like to know (my H is extremely passive aggressive about giving details) I don't think I'd plan to do anything with this info-

I have done a limited (surgical) exposure. for WH
I'd like to know about OW

Me: 48
H: 48
Married 26 , together 30
D1: 21
D2: 18
"Happily Married" until BD
4 weeks later: "Im talking to someone"
No papers filed.
Attempting 180, finding it difficult.