Long term marriage - husband quit!

[Ben2010]

That anger is just a way to keep you at a distance. My W did that stuff alot too anytime the R was brought up. I think they feel justified if they can draw us into arguments and we actually fight with them. I refused to fight about it. I validated and stayed calm the whole time and they seem to run out of steam eventually. When they do calm down though be prepared to deal with the conversation about all of the problems that they see. Thats how mine worked anyway. She told me pretty much everything that was an issue to her and it felt very productive. Dont mistake it as too much of a success though because they can get super inflamed all over again with ease. Just continue to be calm and validate. Youll see him change and realize that he can talk to you about stuff without yelling. Good luck!