Long term marriage - husband quit!

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By accident I meant - he just drove by, I was not looking for him.

9 weeks out- with OW pretty much 6-5 weeks (I imagine the EA started earlier.)

His pure seething anger at me is SO unwarranted. The more I pray and meditate, the worse he becomes. Poor DD 18 had ANOTHER horrible allergic reaction (the body pushes this poison out from the inside out) another trip to the ER.
This time I did not want to even tell WS, I texted DD 21 - said whats going on, and have her tell her dad.

Inside the ER = no phone service at all. When I went outside, FURIOUS WS! Same old blah, blah, blah - the infuriated that we knew where he "lived".--DD21 has friends that live in same complex - she said they spotted him -- good catch!

I calmly told him DD 18 was on IV meds, she was in pain, but working thru. I did not call him - she absolutely refuses to see or speak to him. I let D 21 pass the message on.
THEN he started in on divorce again! - (for the love of it, man! at least this time I was somewhat rested...)
I said I still had the same view (not ready.) he said he has left the home (sharing apartment - but won't say with who or where- passive aggressive much?)

He said he has not "left us", he will continue to pay bills = until divorce over...
I reminded him he refused to pay for OAT = $600 for DD 12, and tuition for DD 18 is Wednesday. I asked if he was living with the OW - I never asked him to move out - in fact I have been quite accommodating...
Did he sign a lease? - no answer.
Did he rent the place? - no.
How can he pay the OW bills, if he can't afford/willing to pay for DD's education???

-- he said nothing..
I really pray and meditate for me - and for him - and my family - every day.
I have done NOTHING to warrant the amount of venom and bile he spews.

Are other WS this aggressive? Have any ever "turned" back to reconcile? I find this level of hostility unsettling. but some people say it is fairly normal at this stage????