Sex was great, then we married part 3

[MrBond]

"Bond, I do hear the women and appreciate their advice. It's tricky though because they all definitely have sexual appetites from what I've read."

And you'd be wrong. Not all of them have sexual appetites. In fact, many didn't even think sex was a priority until their spouse left. That's why it's important to UNDERSTAND YOUR SPOUSE on both sides. And even though you say that you appreciate their advice, debate them to the point of sounding as if you're saying that you're right and their wrong. Even though they have the best ins to how your W is probably feeling.

"And when I mentioned "fixing" I didn't mean trying to fix her life or problems, I mean and tried to explain that I would be there to help with her problems in any possible way I could, always. I'm not sure what problems were assumed, but from the introduction of the idea all I could think was medical problems----problems out of our control but problems that I could help and that people help their loved ones with, not total loss of libido or finding a new job problems, know what I mean?"

Sigh. Of course we know what you mean. Why do you keep insisting we don't? YOU were the one who said that there is nothing wrong with trying to "fix" her. But again, that's HER CHOICE. If she feels like she needs your help, she'll ask you. But you constantly get antsy and say that she should be getting help from you or family or professionals, etc. AGAIN, that's NOT your call. That's hers.