Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

Long distance: I read once that there is no such thing as a long distance relationship. I don't know if that is true. What I do know is that making a relationship work when you are not physically together takes patience, commitment and dedication. The same as any relationship. However, the challenge is the added hurdle to building emotional and physical intimacy.

Saving a marriage that is also a long distance one...that needs a miracle.

Pros:
-Time and space: I have a lot of time.
-Peace: But is a pseudo peace but only because we can delay/defer uncomfortable situations by the simple fact that we are not in the same space.

Cons:
-It is hard to build and maintain physical and emotional intimacy.
-We are maintaining a pattern of avoiding issues and the potential to resolve them by simply not talking. More precisely by not being around we can defer them or not address them all together.
-It feels easier to just give up.
-It is tough getting a read on each other: We have talked only a few times but I think we are both trying to put on a brave face. It makes it easy to mind read. I can second guess myself over and over as to why she is upbeat during these calls.