I can't speak to the lawyer thing, only to the blowing hot and cold by your H.
When I first started all this DBing stuff, I made charts to keep track of my progress and stay on target.
I noticed a definite pattern:
Any real movement towards me that went well was usually followed by a withdrawal, the closer we got, the further away he went, often for a few days afterward.
This has slowed down some.
I also get the irritable/suspicious thing too, sometimes for reasons I can't figure out. Like he's mad at me for something specific, but who knows what?
So I think all that is pretty normal.
You've been a busy lady!
--GG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?