Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

Patience: This was a surprising realization for me-that I am not patient when it comes to my W. Upon reflection, this is perhaps the biggest lesson I am learning which applies to all areas in my life.

Along with that is how emotionally reactive I get which leads me to making decisions (like saying I wanted a divorce) even though the outcome I want is to have a strong, happy, healthy relationship with W.

Even though it has been seven weeks since we re-initiated communication,it feels much longer than that. Having a timeline in mind helps to detach, to get some perspective and to keep me focused.

When that fails, I post on this board to get the much needed outside perspective.