Trying to find my way

[Meghan]

Today had been rough so far. After yesterday's double-whammy of MC and IC, I didn't sleep well and find myself wallowing today. I should get out for a run. Luckily I have plans with a friend tonight.

I could use some advice about how DB can work with counselling, if anyone has thoughts. I'm an emotional person to start with, and it's really difficult to not cry during MC sessions, no matter how much I prepare. This doesn't feel like good DB practice.

I'm also not sure what to do when the counsellor asks a direct question. For instance, in yesterday's session (mentioned towards the end of my last post), H. got upset when I was asked about about some of my issues in our marriage, and I mentioned me being the breadwinner and feeling like I had a lot of housework to do. He gets defensive and feels like this puts the focus on me and invalidates his feelings, even though I acknowledged that he's done far more of the emotional caregiving than I have and that I didn't meet his needs. I don't bring this up outside of counselling anymore, but should I avoid talking about it there, too, as part of my DB?