Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

April-Mid May 2014: It only takes a couple of days for me to realize how hot headed I was in the situation and how often this pattern occurs with me. A good friend counsels me to give her space as does a life coach. I decide to go dark (no communication)for the next seven weeks.


Mid May 2014: For the first time, I spend a time on this board reading through threads and eventually making my first post. I am scared that I am giving her too much space and time. I make the first move to contact her after a month and half. We eventually talk and she says she is convinced we are done and was certain that was what I wanted. I admit to my reactive approach but she insists that we are done. She repeats this phrase which she had been the last few months during arguments: "How do we know we are right for each other? We have only ever been with each other."

Mid May - present: We have talked four times in the past seven weeks. The last couple being on separation logistics and finances. The first couple about her wanting to move on. In all, she has been very upbeat. Almost as if nothing has happened and we are back to normal except that she wants a divorce.