Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

Mar 2014: I return home intent on renting out our place and feeling confident we are getting back on track. W leaves on a three week work trip with colleagues. She goes dim. I had asked her to let me know when she arrived at each major stop of her trip. She sends a couple of update to her family with me included. No direct contact with me. I begin to feel anxious and ask her what is going on. No replies by the time she returns.

I make a surprise visit to find out what is happening. She is extremely hostile. I snoop and find out she is confiding in a male work colleague about us and he is contacting her late in the night. They had traveled together on the work trip.

She asks me to leave. I confront her about the possible EA which she denies. Major fight about trust and if we are right for each other. She tells me to leave. I retaliate by saying I don't trust her and we should divorce. She is bitter about it and asks how I can give up when she stuck with me through my WAS phase for two years. I say we can't do this from a long distance perspective. At the very least, we should be in the same city. She refuses, I leave to return home.