Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

Jan 2013: W does a 180 and becomes extremely cold and hostile. She is very angry but does not want to engage with me most times.

April 2013: W tells me she is not sure about us and not sure if she loves me. I ask her if there is someone else, she says no.

June-July 2013: I discover W is an EA and feeling very confused about us. I confront her about the EA. She denies then admits to it. She blames me for it. I admit to my faults in our M but told her I would not take responsibility for the EA. Ironically, she warms up slightly towards me after this.

Sept. 2013: I move to the city where W had been working for the past year. A big confrontation initiated by me on the very same day I arrive about how hostile W was towards me. I leave to stay in a hotel before heading back here. We talk and she comes home for a wedding. Things appear to go well until I snoop and find out EA is ongoing. W asks for separation for us to figure out what we want. I read the Divorce Remedy book.

Sept-Dec 2013: We see each other once for a couple of hours during this period. Occasional emails.

Dec 2013: She comes home for Christmas. I am prepared for the hostility and try to stay upbeat and positive. A couple of blowouts from both of us but by New Year's, the ice is slightly melting.