confrontation methods?

[pbetra]

Pbetra

Just wanted to offer some support. I know it can be very difficult living in the same space with a spouse who is mean, angry and clearly doesn't want to be there. I am actually happy on the nights my h sees OW because I know I will have some peace.

Thanks juliegayle for your post. Today must be a low day for me
I didn't get much sleep well last night either. My part time carer did not show up (again). I need meds & food and a long list of things to do. Have to collect child at camp after ... laundry or my God.

I suppose the lack of sleep & the 'brave front' where my actions do not match my hurt feelings for so long is a bit much right now. And you know the rule "never let them see you cry" ...

You are right re: sharing space, I can relate to your feeling peace when your H is not there. I would love for him to find someone! He really needs it - the staring at young women, commenting as though I am not even there Your reminder re: detach shows me I need more work in that area. I think GAL will help if I can manage to shorten my to do list here at home some more (?!) OR maybe more sleep !!!LOL

I will also apply your boundaries to my sitch esp. >> can not talk to me in a disrespectful way. << This is typically abusive & condescending as though I am a child. Thx again, it was good to read of your sitch & where you are at the moment. Very encouraging
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