"Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick"

[GoatGal]

Let me make sure I have this right.

So Cadet was referencing a possible time frame after OP is out of the picture.

I see the problem was with my original question.

I was wondering how many WAS/MLC go, stay gone, divorce, whatever, even if there NEVER IS AN OP?
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In my case, it's a marvelous blend of porn addiction, OW, MLC...intimacy avoidance...

But in H's case, OW was DONE by the time I found out, back in early September 2013.

He had no intention of leaving, or divorce at that point. He went to great lengths to hide his infidelity from me.
It was only after weeks of crisis behavior from both of us that he came to the point of filing.

He is out of the house now because I asked him to leave when he served me in early Feb 2014.
He was contributing to what might have turned into an emotional breakdown on my end by his weird, callous, and cold behavior in the face of my pain and grief.

He never "moved out", his placement is temporary--even long term---he's just got his work clothes and toiletries.

Again, I'm not looking to put this into a neat box, I just know women who have had Hs who had the classic MLC, but there wasn't anyone else involved.

They finally got lonely, realized the grass wasn't going to be greener, started missing what they had. And they asked to come home.
The shortest I heard was the H who lived for 5 months on his own after a few months of an on-line EA with an old high school flame on the other side of the continent.

I was just wondering about this.


---GG